They say that the last act of love someone can give to someone who has passed away is grief. Losing a family member, friend, or partner is probably one of the most painful experiences anyone can go through, and it may take years, if not forever, to overcome the pain; because losing someone eternally is definitely going to leave a void.Â
Now, how do you remember loved ones who have died? This question has been the greatest puzzle to anyone who has experienced loss, especially now during a pandemic. Memorial jewelry is one of the simplest yet widely known ways of commemorating the life of someone who has crossed to the other side.
Reading on, here are some of the things anyone can do in letting go as the last acts of love:
1. Let the person acknowledge the pain.
The most common thing one person says to someone who’s going through the pain of losing someone they love is, “Things will get better sooner or later.” Though this may be true, everyone needs to understand that letting the person go through the pain is part of the healing process.
2. Do not compare.
Let the person be while they are grieving; it is only important to make sure that you are always available as part of the overall support system. Each may have different reactions towards the loss of loved ones. Be fair. Do not compare how other people are dealing with death, and some people may cry. Some may stay silent and do not show tears.
3. Remind the person to ask for help.
The process of grieving can be confusing at times. A bereaved person may be in awe one day for not feeling anything after going through days of endless crying and sadness but will find themselves back to the start afterward. Let the person know that it is okay to ask for help from someone they trust.
4. Guide the grieving person.
Guilt is normal for anyone grieving to feel their guilt for being powerless to do anything to save their loved one from dying. Understand that this may lead the bereaved from punishing themselves and may trigger the bereaved to hurt themselves as a desperate act of atonement. This is why it is important to guide a person and possibly stop them from going in that direction. Remember that a thin line between depression and grief exists.
5. Let them go in peace.
No one wants to witness a loved one in agony. If the departed can only go back and talk, they would have probably begged for the bereaved to move on by convincing them that they are now in a better place. At one point, the person who passed away needs to be in peace, and that is only possible if their loved ones left behind will let them go.
At the end of the day, having something tangible helps minimize the pain, and nothing is right or wrong for anyone in collecting themselves back after losing someone they love.
